My parents, my family, my well-wishers, my friends
Today I want to ensure our love lost ends.
The reason why we have gone apart
Is the hurt caused even though we had each other’s best at heart.
You want me to marry and settle as per convention
To follow norms and all our tradition.
Do not get angry or treat me with pity
Am happy and content and don’t need any sympathy.
I will get married some day
To a man who makes me happy and who’s been worth the wait.
I too have a desire to be with a spouse
Someone to share my life with, my love and even a house.
He will be someone who likes me for who I am
Someone who truly deserves to be my man.
I understand your anxiety, your concern, your fears
Of the time passing by and the forever growing years.
But just because am growing old
Do not thrust any man in my life to behold.
I am your girl who has done you proud
Fought the odds and stood apart from the crowd.
You have always taught me to be capable enough
To not let the world take me for granted or treat me rough.
Even when I falter and my faith in self is put to test
You’ve stood by me and assured me that I should seek only the best.
Today I want to remind you that am still the same girl and not some woman arrogant
Full of dreams and hopes and not someone who demands more than her entitlement.
Don’t take my hesitance, when meeting these men, as my overconfidence
It’s just that the men, I’ve met, and me, have not found each other to our acceptance.
Am not demanding as everyone has tainted me to be
Am just looking for some connection and a man who can be a companion to me.
Even though, after a decade or more of meeting suitors I’ve not got hitched
It’s nothing that I said or asked but it’s their attention that I missed.
Often I have thought to rid you from the pressures of society
To end your pain by marrying the man you bring to me.
But if the man chooses to not choose me
I pray you believe that it wasn’t meant to be.
It was His will as you say
To hold my life from going astray.
Even to my friends I want to confess
Every word of advice you give me has saved me from mess.
You’ve taken me and everything in my life as your own
For always holding on to me and never let me feel alone.
You know me better than anyone, infact know me inside out
Therefore it amazes me, when my intent to marry, you doubt.
I know my anxiety, my difficult behaviour and nervousness
Each and everytime, whenever there is a new prospect.
You want me to be myself and not worried
Yet you rush my decision and get me hurried.
Don’t label my virtues as my vices
You know, for me, a true heart is all that suffices.
He is not the last man and there will be many
All I ask is for one who is like you all – sweet, candid and funny.
Marriage is the union of two souls, am told
Not any alliance based on compromises untold.
Then give me a fair chance to seek my man
And not bind me by rules, conditions or time span.
Please remember things happen as decreed and as per God’s will
I will get the one who is meant to be, just be patient still.