He lives in a state of ‘emptiness’; without soul, without any meaning, any dimension. This is the biggest fear in any person’s life – To be bereft of love or the people who love you.
Nothing holds meaning…the successes, the victories, the money, the glamour…everything loses its charm…
No amount of money, success, achievement can compensate for loneliness…there are many people who have all these possessions but have no one they can call theirs…they lead a shallow life… a life where everything is superficial…where efforts are made to have company atleast for sometime…so that in the cacophony of people, his loneliness loses its voice…
Man is a social animal…to be alone is not in his nature…all efforts from the time of birth until death are to attract company…to have someone to share your happiness, your pain, your grief, your joy…when we have someone, our achievements seem bigger…on the other hand, imagine getting a promotion, on the day of your breakup…does it really feel any good? Or, on the day of your wedding, a dear one, passes away…does the most important day of your life feel as sweet…the answer is NO.
The reason is…obvious…to live alone is one of the biggest punishments…to lead a life without your loved ones (partner, spouse, parents, children, friends, etc)…is beyond words…its miserable…
For this reason, we humans go down to any extent to have those special ‘someones’ in our lives at all times… we create facades…we sometimes lose our identity to be with those people….we start making stories to get their attention…have silly senseless excuses/reasons to be in people’s sight…even at the expense of looking hysterical…of being ridiculed; But as long as we are not alone, it all feels good and worth it.
Being alone is one of the most frightful things, even people who talk about space and being away from the crowd, feel helpless when they have no one around. If things like brains, looks, money were the only things which mattered and if we are intelligent, beautiful, rich enough…then we should be on top of the world; however, more often than not, that’s not the case; we always sought association.
The fear of being alone to a human is almost equivalent to a lock being without a key – a lock has no significance if there is no key to open it or shut it – in the same manner, our lives are meaningless without the adornment of people in it.
Sometimes, we have many people around us but still it seems alone at all times. The nexus just doesn’t exist really. We have this perpetual need of having someone around who knows us, understands us, and, on the other hand, sometimes, we have those people around, but end up losing them. Don’t know what is worse…being alone throughout or suddenly being without that person/s in your life?
Personally, it is better to have felt what it is to be with someone instead of never having experience it at all…it renders memories to cherish and reasons to smile, though sometimes, it also creates that vacuum in our lives which can hardly be ever filled. We are left feeling vacant and empty and have this incessant urge to get them back.
There are some of us, who to protect themselves from the hurt and pain, will shield and refrain themselves to be in loved company and never feel the happiness which people bring just by walking into their lives; leading a colourless life, perhaps just living, hardly alive.
At times it is okay to admit being scared of being alone, of not having people in our lives; so that we treasure the people who matter to us even more and if I am given a choice, would hope that there is no single second of loneliness in mine and would scream out loud to all those people who have made my life colourful just as Winnie the Pooh said it “If you live to be a hundred, I want to be a hundred minus one day, so I don’t have to live a day without you.”
